Google Parenting

Throughout pregnancy and until my little one was about 6 months old, I would literally be asking Google a question every single day, no joke, sometimes even twice or three times a day. Every thought that came into my head, I would Google. Every question I had, I would Google for the answer. Every worry I had, I would Google – often this made me worry more.Here’s some of my searches from memory, this list could be quite long:

  • Can you fly with Placenta Previa?
  • What to do if you’re pregnant in Dubai?
  • What happens if the placenta is still covering the cervix at later scan?
  • What happens at the 28 week midwife appointment?
  • Why is my baby’s poo still green?
  • Why has my baby’s poo turned a greenish colour?
  • Is it normal for babies to loose more than 10% in birth weight?
  • How long should it take for babies to regain their birth weight?
  • How often should a 6-week old be feeding?
  • My 3-week old is feeding all the time?
  • Best bottles for babies who won’t take a bottle?
  • How to get a breastfed baby to take a bottle?
  • My baby wakes every hour?
  • What’s the 4-month sleep regression?
  • How to get a baby to sleep during the 4-month sleep regression?
  • Best sleep training methods?
  • Should I use Cry-It-Out solution?
  • Can I start to introduce purees at 5-months old?
  • Best food to start weaning?
  • How many breastfeeds should a baby have whilst weaning?

You get my point, the list goes on and on………..

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This week I had two questions that I needed to Google “How to night wean a 10-month old baby?” and “Is it ok to give a 10-month old baby cows milk?”. You’re probably now thinking is this blog post about breastfeeding, no. It’s about how infrequently I turn to Google these days, I realised that I had barely searched for answers online in the last 4 months, and it got me thinking why? I have a couple of answers for this:

  • I’ve grown in confidence in my ability to be a Mum, and also I know my daughter a lot better now than I did when she was 6 weeks old. I don’t need to ask Google, or read through reams and reams of people’s comments on Mumsnet and NetMums. So I guess I learnt that over time I’m trusting my own instincts a lot more.
  • I’m blogging. The blogging community is such a knowledgeable resource base for any questions you have, and answers you wish to find. It has grown my confidence in my ability at being a Mum. I’ve found that writing and sharing my experiences has helped to boost confidence, as well as receiving lots of lovely advice and comments on my blog posts.
  • My little one is growing up, she’s starting to make her own decisions on what food she wants, whether she wants a breastfeed or not. As I’m taking her lead, it’s much easier this way. Anyway this post is not about breastfeeding.

I think a lot of parents would agree with this, having spent a lot of time on Google throughout pregnancy and in the early days of having a newborn, questioning every thought that comes into our heads. What on earth did we do without the Internet and Google? Babies were born, and we survived without it, maybe we trusted our own instincts more or read baby books.

I would love to hear your view on Google Parenting.

Claire x

 

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  1. Lucy May 20, 2016 / 8:29 am

    Hahaha! I am such a google parent! (It’s a world of knowledge at your fingertips, so why not?) My most recent Google was “What does it mean if my baby tries to lick everything?” and “Should I ring 111 if baby licks 3 day old vanish off the carpet?”…

    Lu X #TribalLove

    • The Pramshed May 20, 2016 / 9:44 am

      Ha ha, they are funny search terms. Thanks for reading and commenting lovely 🙂 x

    • The Pramshed May 22, 2016 / 9:34 am

      Ha ha…..I’ve had a few searches like that too. Thanks for your lovely comment 🙂 x

  2. beautybabyandme May 20, 2016 / 8:43 am

    Oh Google! A godsend and a disaster all at once! I google so much then I think “argh why am I doing this”. It is so helpful sometimes but in other ways I prefer to as you fellow Mummies for advice and as you say, mothers instinct really is amazing at times. A great post #triballove

    • The Pramshed May 20, 2016 / 9:45 am

      Thank you Fi, yes Google tends to worry me so much more. Thanks for reading and commenting lovely 🙂 x

  3. A mum track mind May 20, 2016 / 7:54 pm

    This is me all over – I actually Google everything. Imagine if there was a file kept on everyone and all the things they have googled – mine would make me look like a crazy, neurotic, hyperchondriac I’m sure!! Sometimes it can be useful having a little Google but for the most part, I think it makes things ten times worse….either you get a whole load of conflicting advice or you diagnose yourself with something terminal! Doesn’t stop me from doing it though! Great post Claire x #fortheloveofBLOG

    • The Pramshed May 22, 2016 / 9:35 am

      Thanks Fi! I think that as parents we are all paranoid, and Google is so dangerous for self-diagnosis. Thanks for your lovely comment 🙂 x

  4. Kaye May 21, 2016 / 8:15 am

    What did parents do before Google!? I was constantly doing it when A was a newborn, hopefully not so much with the next one though! #fortheloveofblog

    • The Pramshed May 22, 2016 / 9:36 am

      No idea what did before Google, probably just got on with it. I know what you mean about the next one, I definitely wouldn’t Google as much x

  5. Baby Anon May 21, 2016 / 8:19 am

    This is sooooo true. Mother used to consult Dr Google all the time when she was pregnant with me (which frequently alarmed her more than calmed her). She also bought a book for after I was born, and she constantly checked if I was progressing at the right rate – and then would panic that I hadn’t achieved a milestone. Now….she doesn’t read her book or consult Dr Google but trusts her instincts and me, because I am telling her what I need in so many ways. And all these fabulous posts, which I leave open for her, help her enormously 😉 x #fortheloveofBLOG

    • The Pramshed May 22, 2016 / 9:37 am

      Thanks for your lovely comment Baby Anon 🙂 x

  6. manstayshome May 21, 2016 / 8:37 am

    It’s true that you trust yourself more as a parent a time goes by. Initially you worry that you’re doing things the way everyone else does it, there’s some common ground but soon you realise everyone is doing things slightly different because babies have different needs and personalities.

    Google is still the knowledgable one for me though!

    Thanks for sharing #fortheloveofBLOG

    • The Pramshed May 22, 2016 / 9:40 am

      Yes, I completely agree with that, I think at first you have no idea what you’re doing, but once you find your own stride you no longer need so much advice x

  7. fairyqueen May 21, 2016 / 8:45 am

    Oh the famous google, both the giver of reassuring news and the worst friend in the world with tales of all the worst case scenarios thrown at us at once, normally with scary pictures thrown in! I have a love hate relationship with google but still use on a regular basis!!:)

    Mainy

    myrealfairy.com

    #fortheloveofblog

    • The Pramshed May 22, 2016 / 9:40 am

      Same here, thanks for you lovely comment x

  8. mumzilla May 21, 2016 / 8:50 am

    Back from #fortheloveofBLOG 😀

  9. JerseyGirl May 21, 2016 / 9:00 am

    I think whether a parent or not Google is the “go to” answer for everything in my life! I think it can be scary and a comfort but more often than not its reassuring.
    #fortheloveofBLOG

  10. moderatemum May 21, 2016 / 9:19 am

    I have regular appointments with Dr Google. My sons father laughs at me because I type exactly what I’m thinking into the search bar. Whilst it has often bought me comfort there is such a thing as too much information. I did once become convinced that my son had a terrible skin condition when he had perfectly common dribble rash 🙂 #fortheloveofBLOG

    • The Pramshed May 22, 2016 / 9:42 am

      I am so guilty of this, and sometimes it’s a really long search term! Google has its tendancies to make us all paranoid x

  11. Mrs T (@SothisismeMrsT) May 21, 2016 / 9:20 am

    good question! although Mr T has banned me from googling anything health related as it ends up in a near meltdown from me!! #fortheloveofBLOG

    • The Pramshed May 22, 2016 / 9:42 am

      Same here, we just shouldn’t do it to avoid being self-diagnosed with something terrible x

  12. Mess and merlot May 21, 2016 / 9:52 am

    Yep a lot of love for Dr Google in this house!! #fortheloveofBLOG

    • The Pramshed May 22, 2016 / 9:43 am

      Thanks, it can be so useful but also not useful, making us feel worse about things x

  13. islandliving365 May 21, 2016 / 10:09 am

    Oh no Dr Google is dangerous. It can be ever so helpful sometimes but also really scary and then if we don’t like the answer I go to Dr Bing! 😉 #fortheloveofBLOG

    • The Pramshed May 22, 2016 / 9:43 am

      Ha ha! Dr Bing, I hadn’t thought of other search engines x

  14. Marmee March May 21, 2016 / 10:14 am

    I so do this, actually I ask google all sort s of questions including ‘how to get things done when I don’t feel like doing anything?’ – which wasn’t helpful as I recall!!! In fact I think for me google is a bit of a distraction to avoid actually dealing with whatever I’m googling. Still I don’t know how I ever got through the first 25 years of my life with out it!! great reflective post #ForthoveofBLOG

    • The Pramshed May 22, 2016 / 9:45 am

      Same here, I even ask Google the question as I would speak it! Thank you lovely x

  15. laughing mum May 21, 2016 / 10:15 am

    omg! i turn to google for EVERYTHING! and I always leave with one conclusion… that I’m dying lol.. the husband has banned me from google.. probably for the best haha! #fortheloveofBLOG

    • The Pramshed May 22, 2016 / 9:45 am

      It is so bad for making us think that isn’t it!? x

  16. Kate Orson May 21, 2016 / 10:26 am

    Google parenting, I love it! My daughter is 4.5 now, and I rarely google these days. I have my favourite places I go to for good advice but like you I did look up everything when she was younger. I think the internet is a great resource, and we are lucky we can pick and choose whatresonates with us. Although sometimes that can get confusing that there is so much information out there! #fortheloveofBLOG

    • The Pramshed May 22, 2016 / 9:46 am

      Thanks lovely for your comment, the internet is a fab resource and you’re right we can pick and choose what we want to read x

  17. justsayingmum May 21, 2016 / 10:41 am

    Brilliant – Google is like my best friend and it never tires of me or rolls its eyes at me or strops at me or lectures me – perfect friend – it accompanies me over a cup of coffee, lunchtime, a glass of wine – never moans and always knows the answer – never too busy – oh I can feel a blog coming on – google versus real life friends! I always google too – think we are all guilty of it – found myself googling why do teenagers have so much damn attitude recently – yes it got that bad! Great post, again, lovely #fortheloveofBLOG

  18. Lauren May 21, 2016 / 10:45 am

    I’m terrible for googling everything! And I agree with the lack of confidence in the early days being a driving force behind all the google questions! I was the same! It’s also tailed off the older she gets. Although I am finding that if I do need an opinion I’m asking mums of Twitter baby related questions.The other day I was umming and aahing over giving nut milks to the baby and Google wasn’t giving me straight answers! So I turned to a Twitter mum and had a conversation about it which was 10 times better than a search engine! I think the mum community on Twitter (mostly bloggers but not all!) is a great resource and support for each other! #fortheloveofBLOG

  19. Nursery Whines May 21, 2016 / 10:52 am

    I also Googled some of these exact questions. I agree that the blogging cmmuntiy really help, as well as getting into your stride. It’s a double edged sword though as before the internet it would have been harder to get quick advice, but you also get so many mixed messages and it can drive paranoia. Please keep us posted on how the night weaning goes. #fortheloveofBLOG

  20. Ali Duke May 21, 2016 / 12:09 pm

    I think using Google can make things worse, before you know it you have jungle fever and are being told to put bat poop on your feet lol.
    Personally I think blogs are a much more useful source of information, as it is from people who have actually experienced it.
    #fortheloveofBLOG

  21. Mother of Teenagers May 21, 2016 / 12:35 pm

    Google parenting never stops. I am constantly turning to google on a daily basis for guidance on aspects of my teenagers’ lives as well as to get answers to things on their behalf. It makes you wonder how we coped before. Long live google! #fortheloveofblog

  22. Bonjour Mini May 21, 2016 / 1:20 pm

    Google is brilliant but often dangerous. Throughout our pregnancy we have often found conflicting and often completely contradictory information online. My ‘go to’ is always the relability of the source. If it comes from a random chat room I am less likely to believe it 100% but if it is from the NHS (for example) I am more confident.

    We have already joked I will be ‘asking siri’ for advice mid-nappy change!

  23. Emma - meandbmaketea May 21, 2016 / 1:58 pm

    I spoke to my nana and she is 92 this year. she told me she used to hand wash the nappies and dry them each day – with two young boys. no internet, no disposable nappies and she just got on with it. and babies cried, and they didn’t always sleep. and that’s OK! she taught me a lot 🙂
    if I did pregnancy again, I would NOT bother with things like babycentre and googling too much as it just ended up worrying me. #fortheloveofBLOG

  24. thetaleofmummyhood May 21, 2016 / 1:58 pm

    I love this post, I google everything. Even a year in I’m still on google at least once a day!

    #fortheloveofBLOG

  25. Daile May 21, 2016 / 3:00 pm

    This is a great post. I do Google everything!!!! But I do think since I had my 2nd child I do use it less because I am more confident.

  26. mindfulmummy May 21, 2016 / 3:12 pm

    Google can be so handy but it can also cause more worry than it’s worth…with my first I looked up quite a few things about illnesses and I wish I’d never bothered as it just caused me to stay awake at night! Good question though – I wonder what parenting was like before the internet? harder… or maybe easier (less social media comparison and ‘advice’ of good parenting!).

    • mindfulmummy May 21, 2016 / 3:14 pm

      oops I should have said good to find this post through #theloveofBLOG

  27. Sammie May 21, 2016 / 3:41 pm

    I still google all the bloody time. ‘what happens if my toddler eats a crayon?’ & ‘Do I need to take my toddler to the Doctors if she licks the dogs mouth?’ … Google pretty much raises my kid. x #FortheloveofBLOG

  28. Rebecca | AAUBlog May 21, 2016 / 3:56 pm

    I was the same in the early days – its easier to ask a computer a silly questions than ring up my mum. again! ha x #fortheloveofblog

  29. Sonia May 21, 2016 / 5:44 pm

    I must admit, I really only use google for illness stuff, mainly rashes, that are generally all viral rashes, but rashes did scare me early on! Anything parenting based was ‘MUM HELP!’ in the early days and then involving my mummy friends who had slightly older children. I’ve only just started blogging and can see how the community would be a huge support for new mums. xx

  30. occupation:(m)other May 21, 2016 / 5:50 pm

    I love this post…I really do. I’ve had one similar simmering in my back head for a little while because I am exactly the same – I googled everything intensely and then yes gradually noticed a shift, as my confidence grew and my anxieties lessened. Although I did notice with the start of my second pregnancy that I turned to dr Google a little more again but have stopped again now. A really lovely post. #fortheloveofBLOG

  31. rachelbustin blog (@RachelBustin) May 21, 2016 / 6:53 pm

    I was a huge Google mummy throughout my pregnancy and up til about 3 months. These last couple of weeks I have relaxed loads. Google was worrying me too much. Now I am straight onto the phone to mum. Mums always know best! xx

    #ForTheLoveOfBLOG

  32. carolcliffe May 21, 2016 / 7:31 pm

    I guess before Google there were always parenting books. I’m still a books kind of person actually. Perhaps I need to Google more?? #FortheloveofBLOG

  33. Rebecca May 21, 2016 / 7:36 pm

    Oh definitely! I can completely relate to this as I am sure many can!! Bless you. I am so pleased that you consult Google less now. I think we grow in our confidence as parents. Although, I am curious as to what happens with a second child (not that we are planning to have one). Do you start off much more confidently? My friend had her second at the same time I had my first and she seemed to be asking even more questions than me but she said it was because there were 5 years between her two children…Or is it because we worry more with newborns in general but as they become more robust we relax more? It’s interesting! Great post. Thank you for hosting X #fortheloveofBLOG

  34. twotinyhands May 21, 2016 / 9:27 pm

    Oh, I know what you mean, its great that we’ve grown in confidence. I did also indeed visit google. Quite a lot of the time though I would say, what did people do 100 years ago. Not just on questions but actual physical stuff too. How did babies sleep without a growbag 200 years ago! Lol. #fortheloveofblog

  35. @livingwithlayla May 21, 2016 / 10:08 pm

    I have googled soooo many things mostly about sleeping/not sleeping and reflux and why won’t my baby stop crying? I to though have googled less although we are about to give baby led weaning a go and I feel as though my googling addiction will begin again…. #fortheloveofblog

  36. My Little Yarn Baby May 21, 2016 / 10:15 pm

    Ha ha sometimes Google is great and sometimes it’s terrifying. The other day I convinced myself that Freddie had diabetes I’m pretty sure he doesn’t…… I do the same on baby centre and search EVERYTHING!!!
    #fortheloveofBLOG

  37. Jane Taylor May 22, 2016 / 12:03 am

    I Google and Wikipedia!!! The two pronged attack! Lol! I recognised some of the questions I asked amongst yours. Mind you, Google can be scary. Our daughter was diagnosed with a genetic disease at birth (Goldenhars Syndrome)…Richard Googles it and it was worse case scenarios about back, spine, kidney problems and deformities and learning difficulties…She only had a little ear tag and a white lump on her eyeball the size of a split pea that was later removed…She is fine and yet my hubby scared himself to death! Thanks for sharing, Claire. #fortheloveofBlog

  38. Kat May 22, 2016 / 7:15 am

    I think I am a google parent, not very frequently but sometimes and like you I’ve found the blogging community so helpful when it comes to talking about phases and behaviours that I don’t understand but I agree, when you’re a new parent things are so new and then as you and your baby adjust you seem to trust yourself a bit more! #fortheloveofblog

  39. Double the Monkey Business May 22, 2016 / 7:24 am

    I have googled most of these as well!! Definitely the green poo question 🙂 I only discovered blogging this year and wish I had been doing it from the beginning of my parenting journey, there are so many great people out there, who can help and understand xxx #fortheloveofBLOG

  40. anywaytostayathome May 22, 2016 / 7:28 am

    I’m completely a Google parent! The searches may be less fraught m frequent now but it’s still my go to source of advice, not just on parenting, just life in general really. Xx #fortheloveofBLOG

  41. crummymummy1 May 22, 2016 / 9:04 am

    I googled everything the first time round, but haven’t googled anything the second time round! How did we live without google?! #fortheloveofBLOG

    • The Pramshed May 22, 2016 / 9:50 am

      No idea, I googled everything too, especially in the middle of the night at 3am! x

  42. Busy Working Mummy May 22, 2016 / 9:16 am

    You have to love google!! It can tell you anything and then also tell you the opposite at the same time… #fortheloveofBLOG

  43. flyingsolo7 May 22, 2016 / 12:08 pm

    My boys are almost 20 & 16 so I didn’t have access to the Internet back then (Im not even sure if it was a thing) I had to go off instincts and learn my way through as I went, to be honest I think I prefer it that way as nowadays there are so many things you can and can’t do and so many differing opinions about it all and it must drive new mums mad! As long as a baby is fed, watered and dry and can sleep (mine didn’t) then thats all they need! like you say we all survived somehow. Its the teen years I could have done with blogs or SIRI to help me out… But alas I muddled through that too! God I feel so old writing this like I came from the Dinosaur ages or something…

  44. Jakijellz May 22, 2016 / 3:07 pm

    I remember when I was little my Mum used to tell me to stay away from the Medical Book because it will scare the living daylights out of me. I think Google can be the same – but on the otherhand it can be a lifesaver. We’ve all done. I still do. I don’ think we’ll ever change now that it is such a big thing in every day life. #fortheloveofBLOG

  45. thehippychristianmum May 22, 2016 / 5:03 pm

    I think a lot of new mum’s can really relate to this ‘Google Parenting’. This time around I have avoided googling at all costs as I had a traumatic birth (you may’ve read my post about it 😉 and didn’t want to find the scary answers that sometimes pop up. Always second guessing ourselves as mums though aren’t we! Thanks for hosting the linky #fortheloveofBLOG 🙂

    • The Pramshed May 22, 2016 / 9:50 pm

      Thanks lovely, no I’ve not read about your birth experience, I feel compelled to read about it:) x

  46. Mrs Lighty May 22, 2016 / 10:39 pm

    I completely agree with this, as I was exactly the same!! And now I’ve just, well, stopped googling…there must just be a point in time when we get to grips with things?! Thanks for hosting #fortheloveofBLOG 🙂

  47. KG May 22, 2016 / 10:59 pm

    Truth be told, I’d have been lost without Google in those early days! Throughout my pregnancy and for the first year I googled anything and everything – my list was very similar to yours! I still find it really handy though, for getting advice about my daughter’s eczema in particular, though I definitely don’t use Dr Google anywhere near as much as I used to! #fortheloveofBLOG

  48. Becky (And Then There Were Two) May 23, 2016 / 6:06 am

    Yesterday I spent the day googling ‘how to stop toddler waking for the day at 4.30am’. Lots of forums saying ‘my child does this too’ – not many practical solutions! I too was a Google fiend but I’ve definitely scaled it back recently – probably for the reasons you’ve said here 🙂 #fortheloveofBLOG

    • The Pramshed May 23, 2016 / 1:25 pm

      Thanks lovely! I would have Googled the same thing last week, hope your toddler is managing to sleep a little longer 🙂 x

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  49. scamperandtwirl May 23, 2016 / 11:24 am

    Lol I tried not to Google parent but definitely did some! Nothing wrong with it if you know to take it with a pinch of salt.

    I think it’s a consequence of families being so far apart these days geographically speaking. Once upon a time you’d have been surrounded by parents, aunts grandparents – sharing a yard, being neighbours, still sharing a house. This kind if support is no longer available as we learn patenting. I just politely say hi to my next door neighbours…

    Nice read, thank you.

    #fortheloveofBLOG

    • The Pramshed May 23, 2016 / 1:24 pm

      That is very true, and thank you for your lovely comment 🙂 x

  50. Kiri May 23, 2016 / 10:00 pm

    What did people do before Google – I google everything! it’s so handy having advice at your finger tips, especially if you are awake at 3am with a baby and there’s no one else to ask at that time of morning! #fortheloveofblog

  51. whitecamellias May 24, 2016 / 2:39 pm

    OMG that is me all over when I had my first son. We turned to google for everything and most of the time felt like crap afterwards because our baby somehow didn’t quite fit with other people’s comments. It used to make me feel very anxious but you are right when you say that as time goes by our confidence as parents grows and we are better at trusting our instincts. I feel quite free now that I don’t consult goggle every 5 seconds!

    #FortheloveofBlog

  52. everythingsrosieandgeorge May 25, 2016 / 12:15 pm

    Thank god for google! I think I’d have had at least 1000 more trips to the doctor/health visitor if I hadn’t been able to ask Google everything I needed to know. Blogging has definitely been such a great help for me too, instead of random Google answers I can now turn to actual people in the same situation as me! It’s so great to feel more confident in yourself isn’t it, but at least we know Google will be there when we have to help with random homework questions we won’t have done for 20 years haha xx #fortheloveofblog

  53. Petite Pudding May 25, 2016 / 2:18 pm

    Sometimes you just have to google because you don’t want anyone to think the questions you are asking are ridiculous and luckily your computer can’t judge you – I cant imagine having to turn to my husband and asking him what him what he thought about some of the many embarassing pregnancy complaints. Good old google saving the day, one crazy neurotic question at a time! Thanks for hosting #fortheloveofBLOG

  54. Silly Mummy May 27, 2016 / 10:01 pm

    Yes, we do all google everything now, don’t we?Not just in relation to parenting either! #fortheloveofBLOG

  55. thebusymumnet June 1, 2016 / 2:38 pm

    I’m 100% sure that I wouldn’t have kept my son alive without Google. I’m a YouTube parent too…so when my LO gets a new toy, I have to YouTube it, to see how to put it together and how it works!!

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