Oh dear Kate Hudson, you probably didn’t mean it, and you probably didn’t mean to answer that question “What’s the laziest thing you’ve ever done?” that’s been in the news this week with “having a c-section”.
This is not a critique at you, but having a c-section is by no means lazy at all. I’m sure that many c-sections mums would agree with me. You wouldn’t write down “having a baby with forceps” as being a lazy thing after having a baby pulled out of you, so why write down “having a c-section”. Having a c-section or choosing to have a c-section is a hard, tough and possibly life threatening decision to make.
First there’s the thought of it. When I was pregnant with my daughter I dreaded that I might end up having a c-section. Nearly a third of all child births in the UK are by c-section, that is a scary statistic, and one that is extremely likely to happen.
Having had a c-section after a 60 hour induced labour (definitely not lazy) which involved blood loss and nearly every drug you could give a woman in labour I was actually relieved that the whole process was over, and that I could meet my little girl. Thank god for the NHS and c-sections otherwise who knows what would have happened.
The recovery is by far the hardest part of having a c-section. The pain, the not being able to walk, the not being able to lift your child, let alone breastfeed properly, is super tough. That went on for weeks. It wasn’t until about 6 weeks post c-section that I started to feel truly better, to move without feeling like my insides weren’t being torn in two.
So having a c-section is definitely not lazy. I don’t look back on the experience and wish I had it another way. Yes I would have loved to have had a water birth in the birth centre, but sadly that fell by the wayside when my daughter decided to be 17 days late.
I imagine that any future children I have will also be c-section babies, and I know how tough the experience and recovery will be. If I’m honest this frightens and scares the life out of me, as I know what could be coming.
So for anyone out thinking that a c-section birth or your c-section birth is lazy, it certainly wasn’t. You are a trooper for dealing with the aftermath and trying to cope with a newborn when your body has literally been ripped apart.
C-section mamas, I salute you.