The Partner’s View – Naptime Natter

The Partner’s View – Naptime Natter

This week I’m excited to introduce Wendy from Naptime Natter to my guest series -The Partner’s View. I loved reading this birth story told by Wendy’s partner Oli, as it goes to show how amazing and strong the human body is. It sounds like Wendy had a brilliant text book birth, I’m slightly jealous you got to experience a pool! Well done Wendy, and congrats on the birth of Oli. I hope the next one is just as brilliant for you. Please all have a ready of Wendy’s experience.

What were your thoughts and feelings leading up to the birth of your child?

I remember feeling very excited about finding out whether we were right in thinking, completely narrow mindedly, that we were definitely having a boy. Worrying that we had enough of the right things that babies need like nappies, bottles, clothes, bedding etc but mostly I remember dreaming about what he (as we assumed……correctly!) would look like.

As a birth partner, how did you prepare for the birth?

Because I work in health care I planned my side of the birth like I would do work, I imagined all of the scenarios and planned what I would do in each event, logistically thinking of where to go and at what stages of labour. We went to a very good group of anti-natal classes where they went through the stages of labour and how long contractions should last for before we did everything and stored them in my mind so I could keep Wend calm as well as plan for the next stage.

Tell us a little about your partners birth?

It started at about 9 in the morning, I got a phone call at work with Wend saying she felt something was happening and that it was different from anything she had felt before and that the baby was coming. When I got home I think she had started to run a bath to ease the pain so I helped her into it, we sat in the bathroom together listening to music and ‘walking up the stairs’ through the start of each contraction and ‘walking back down the stairs’ as it eased off again. I called her parents by about mid day as they were taking us to hospital, we got to the hospital at quite a busy time so waited around for about half a hour but to us I think it felt like a lot longer! Wend was seen by her midwives and checked for how far through her labour she was whilst on the ward and by some miracle we were offered a family room downstairs to ourselves.

Whilst we were down there Wend was on gas and air only and the contractions started coming thick and fast, we could hear a woman in the pool, which was next door, having a hard time of it and on one of her checks the midwife had suggested that this woman was having to go onto the ward and so the pool would be free and would Wend like to use it? We hadn’t considered a water birth but this was about 4:30pm and so labour had been going for about 7 hours and the gas and air was starting not to cut it so Wend said yes as pain relief she would try the pool. This turned out to be the best thing ever, Wend stayed in the pool for the next 4 hours, contractions coming faster together until eventually the midwife had to check how dilated Wend was, exactly half an hour after Wend was examined she some how knew exactly what to do and what position to be in and what seemed like moments to me my beautiful son was born, I will never, ever forget the sight of Wend leaning back as Leo was pushed forward by the momentum of the water and I watched as he looked up at his mum from underneath the water and she gazed down at him with pure love. The image of their eyes meeting for the first time will be something I keep with me forever.

What were you most afraid of during your partner’s birth?

I wasn’t afraid of anything during the labour or the birth, Wend was the strongest I’d ever seen anyone be and the midwives were amazing. I was an onlooker to the most unplanned but beautifully choreographed event and for me everything went perfectly.

What was the best and most positive part of your partners birth?

The best part was and will always be the long unblinking look they gave each other as mum and son met for the first time, finally meeting.

How did you support your partner and baby after the birth?

For the first few weeks Wend did the night shift and I did the day shift so that we could both sleep and so there was always one of us awake and charged when Leo needed us. That changed once I went back to work which was very hard on Wend as she breast fed Leo until he was nine months.

What advice would you give to a birthing partner?

Be calm and reassuring and just to be involved, it could feel easy to take a back seat and let the midwives and your partner do it all but just being there and holding hands, making sure the gas and air reaches(!) and telling her how proud you are I hope was enough.

A little bit about Wendy

“Hi, I’m Wendy! A stay at home mum to my very cheeky toddler Leo and wife to my best friend Oli. Because life with a toddler isn’t crazy enough (!), Oli and I decided to have another baby who will be arriving into the world late October 2016. I am all about fun family days out, exploring the woods, walks on the beach and just enjoying life.”

You can find Wendy on her blog, on Twitter, on Pinterest and on Instagram.

I hope you’ve enjoyed reading. If you would you like to take part in my guest series, then drop me an email at thepramshedblog@gmail.com

Claire x

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49 Comments

  1. wendy August 9, 2016 / 8:43 am

    Yay, thank you for featuring my blog and Oli on The Partners View. I loved reading what he had to say about Leo’s birth, let’s hope things go just as smoothly this time around :).xx
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    • The Pramshed August 9, 2016 / 9:16 pm

      I loved reading your birth story! I can’t believe how smoothly it went for you, you are one of the lucky ones Wendy. Oli sounds like such a supportive partner for both you and Leo. Thank you for sharing your story with me 🙂 x

    • The Pramshed August 13, 2016 / 8:11 am

      Thanks Rachel, I loved reading Wendy’s birth story xx

  2. A mum track mind August 13, 2016 / 7:56 am

    Such a lovely birth story. I went in water with my first and it really helped a lot. I’ve been lucky enough to witness lots of water births and they are more often than not such calm and positive experiences. Good luck with the next one! #fortheloveofBLOG x
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    • The Pramshed August 13, 2016 / 8:21 am

      That’s interesting to here Fi, I would have loved to have gone in the water with mine x

  3. Mrs Lighty August 13, 2016 / 9:35 am

    What a lovely birth story! I love how their eyes met, it made me almost cry! Thanks for sharing with and hosting #fortheloveofBLOG
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    • The Pramshed August 15, 2016 / 10:48 pm

      It’s so cute isn’t it reading that, I love getting the answers back to my questions 🙂 x

  4. alisonlonghurst August 13, 2016 / 11:22 am

    Ah, this is really lovely. It is so good hearing the partner’s view. Thank you for sharing. Alison x #fortheloveofBLOG

    • The Pramshed August 15, 2016 / 10:42 pm

      Thanks lovely for reading and commenting 🙂 x

    • The Pramshed August 15, 2016 / 10:41 pm

      Thanks lovely, I am really enjoying reading all the posts 🙂 x

  5. Topsy Turvy Tribe August 13, 2016 / 1:14 pm

    What a lovely series. This brought a tear to my eye when Oli described the look that mummy and son gave each other for the first time. Thanks for sharing #fortheloveofBLOG
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    • The Pramshed August 15, 2016 / 10:39 pm

      Ah lovely, that bit got me as well. Thanks for reading and commenting 🙂 x

    • The Pramshed August 15, 2016 / 10:38 pm

      Thank you lovely, I love reading about the experience 🙂 x

    • The Pramshed August 15, 2016 / 10:38 pm

      Same here, I would have loved one, but it didn’t happen. Thanks for reading and commenting 🙂 x

  6. Jane Taylor August 13, 2016 / 6:30 pm

    Aw, the bit about their first look at each other gave me goosebumps. Lovely. #Fortheloveofblog
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    • The Pramshed August 15, 2016 / 10:35 pm

      Thanks Jane me too! A lovely birth story 🙂 x

  7. Susie Hawes August 13, 2016 / 7:45 pm

    Aww how lovely. Well done and congratulations. Totally jealous – I hope for a water birth but baby’s meconium in waters scuppered that.. Maybe one day!
    #fortheloveofBLOG

    • The Pramshed August 15, 2016 / 10:33 pm

      I had hoped for one too, but being induced stopped that. Maybe one day….fingers crossed 🙂 x

  8. Beta Mummy August 13, 2016 / 8:58 pm

    Oh I love a good birth story, especially lovely ones like this! I hoped for a water birth for my second, but got to the hospital too late for them to fill it up!
    #fortheloveofblog
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    • The Pramshed August 15, 2016 / 10:32 pm

      Oh no so annoying! I love reading a birth story too, and it’s so nice to hear it from the partner’s perspective 🙂 x

  9. thefrenchiemummy August 13, 2016 / 11:34 pm

    I absolutely love the way he talks about the first look between maman and bébé! So lovely.This series is fab! What an idée de génie!!!! I wish Grumpy Boyfriend could do it… #KCACOLS
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    • The Pramshed August 15, 2016 / 10:30 pm

      I’m sure that one day you’ll persuade him, I would love to read your story 🙂 x

  10. Alan Herbert August 13, 2016 / 11:37 pm

    How lucky you were to have a partner who had an idea what to do in different stages of the birth.

    I was like a rabbit in the headlights and didn’t have a clue. When things went wrong I was dumbstruck!

    #KCACOLS
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    • The Pramshed August 15, 2016 / 10:30 pm

      It’s scary child birth and is not something to be afraid of being scared. Thanks for reading and commenting 🙂 x

    • The Pramshed August 15, 2016 / 10:26 pm

      Ah lucky you, I would have loved a water birth. Thanks for reading and commenting 🙂 x

    • The Pramshed August 15, 2016 / 10:24 pm

      Thanks for reading and commenting, I would have loved a water birth, but sadly that went out the window 🙂 x

    • The Pramshed August 15, 2016 / 10:22 pm

      Thanks Rachel, glad you got a second viewing 🙂 x

    • The Pramshed August 15, 2016 / 10:22 pm

      Thanks Becky! It’s great hearing it from the partner’s point of view 🙂 x

  11. Claire August 15, 2016 / 1:32 am

    I love reading birth stories and this is a great one! #kcacols

    • The Pramshed August 15, 2016 / 10:21 pm

      Thank you, they are all so good to read 🙂 x

  12. Emma me and b make tea August 15, 2016 / 11:17 am

    aww lovely insight into your birth story and early days 🙂 good luck for October too – not long at all really 🙂 #fortheloveofblog

    • The Pramshed August 15, 2016 / 10:19 pm

      Thanks lovely, I’m sure that Wendy will like that comment 🙂 x

    • The Pramshed August 15, 2016 / 10:18 pm

      Thank you for reading and for your lovely comment 🙂 x

    • The Pramshed August 16, 2016 / 9:47 pm

      Thanks Pen! It is a lovely story to read. Thanks for reading and commenting x

  13. One Messy Mama August 18, 2016 / 2:02 am

    I always wondered what a water birth was like. I enjoyed reading your birth story. Thank you! #KCACOLS
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    • The Pramshed August 22, 2016 / 8:31 pm

      Thanks so much for reading and commenting lovely 🙂 x

  14. Sassy August 22, 2016 / 12:22 am

    Absolutely gorgeous Account of the bath! I’m so glad everything went so smoothly, and it was pretty much textbook! Fingers crossed it’s plain sailing with the second one due in October! 🙂 xxx

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