As parent’s it’s natural to feel guilty about many things. The list is endless. It could be returning to work after maternity leave, putting your child into nursery, not returning to work, not spending enough time with your children, checking Twitter when you should be playing with your child, and blogging. The list goes on and on. Whatever choices we make there will always be something that makes us feel guilty.
Just because we have a child or children, doesn’t stop us from being the person we were before they entered the world. We have to let that person out every now and again to save our sanity and remember who we once were.
I’ve been through the days of sleepless nights. Worrying if my daughter is eating the right food, or eating enough food. Or why has she only drunk milk for the last 3 days. So now is the time I feel that I deserve some guilt free time. So that’s why I’ve decided to embrace guilt free parenting today, and tomorrow as I have holiday from work and my daughter is going to nursery.
I might look back on these two days and wish that I had spent that time with my daughter, instead of her being looked after by the nursery staff. However every once in a while I need a little bit of “me” time, and there is nothing wrong with that.
So how have I spent my “me” time today?
I have whiled away nearly 4 hours getting my hair done without worrying about how my husband is coping at home with my daughter, as I would normally have my hair highlighted at the weekend. And tomorrow I will be going shopping and hoping to enjoy a nice baby free lunch.
Some may disagree and feel that these are precious moments I should be spending with her. However her nursery is already paid for, she enjoys going, seeing her friends and climbing on the climbing frame. Sometimes I think that she prefers being at nursery than being at home. She probably has a lot more fun there and learns a lot more.
There is so much pressure on us today as parents. No matter how we choose to live our lives with our children, the guilt will always remain, and that level of guilt will vary from person to person. I’m going to enjoy the next few days guilt free, and then enjoy a fantastic weekend with my daughter. Then next week we will resume guilty parenting when I return to work, and I take my daughter to nursery.
The guilt I feel has certainly eased over the last couple of months as I have got used to be being back at work, and my daughter has got used to being in nursery. However I think it will always be something that hangs around at my side and will always exist.
Do you feel guilty as a parent, and how do you cope with it?
This post was first published for Meet Other Mums in November 2016